What do marital vows really mean?
The partners pretending that the marriage isn’t dead then inviting others close to them to be witness to it. The partners engaging in that sense of Mutual Assured Destruction (MAD’ness) which is naturally a package deal once those vows are made. The reversing of roles that make one partner feel desperation, depression and resentment toward the other partner because of the comparison of value (monetary, emotional, structured) being deposited into the relationship.
Let’s just be honest, that’s one Terms and Conditions agreement that no one ever reads and always defaults on. It’s a promise that people make that they amend for their own selfishness, misdeeds and agendas. Those vows are a list of the most elusive securities. The vows are not the issue, it’s the people who are unworthy to recite them, let alone hold themselves to the promises those vows carry. Those people don’t understand what they mean, or what courage, sacrifice and discipline they entail.
There is no longer sanctity in marriage, it is an institution – nothing more. Be it, financial, cultural, or social; at the least it’s an institution that is known to be a compulsory requirement for sexual activity. However, low and behold, premarital sex is the norm these days and no one is afraid of the consequences of the many deities who condemn it. The reasons for marriage have evolved and gone so far outside the lines that no ones really knows what marriage means.
So the basic vows go like this:
I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
The reality is this:
41% of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional.31% of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered.74% of marriages where one or both spouses say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught.75% of couples dealing with chronic disease end in divorce.Only 24% of marriages end due to death of a spouse.
The numbers don’t lie and the massive number of peoples experiences don’t lie. Crossing, blurring, reading between and ignoring those lines is what’s been happening for a long time now. Relationships based on unobtainable standards, are destined for a grief filled, disappointing, unhappy and always longing ride.
Submission in response to —> Daily Prompt: Crossing